i feel guilty for kissing another guy i feel guilty for kissing another guy

2. She may mean it now, but maybe next week she wont, but you cannot rely on it..Is it a pattern of distrust? He left and went to the lake. All of sudden my guy friend stopped texting me good morning and good night Im a guy and i had sex with my guy bestfriend drunk. DON'T: Kiss and tell to someone you're kissing. Don't hurt him any more than you already have. It was a real dress up affair, and the drink flowed freely all night long. = I'VE ONLY GOT HIS WORD FOR IT. This recently happened to me. I certainly took full responsibility for my actions, and fortunately the guy I kissed also took responsibility for his actions. Oh, I see. Here are the frightening ways to know that he gave another girl a kiss ; 1. Talk About Family, Marriage and Relationships, My magic wand would remove shame from sexuality for all! Though somehow I think there might have been trouble in the marriage. Yes Im addiction there are things called SUDs.. What you *can* have is the Biggest B*lls on the Block award. So, when he offered me whisky, I happily drank it until I was drunk as a skunk. Anyway I'll get off this post now. A guy bought me drinks and he asked me if I wanted to ride his motorcycle to another bar and I did. All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft, Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column. Well you need to figure that out and fast. Being married is something that can be quite complicated at times. [1] you didn't foresee and avoid being in that predicament. Please help me. What isn't, is Despite their passion during the kiss though, thestraight guys (quite predictably)all saythey still identified asstraight. reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): A I had had an argument with my fianc because I found a suspicious text from a woman , he became very mad . Oh my god, (Brodie)bit my tongue! yells James. If you drink so much that you lose track of everything, then you already took the first step on a dangerous road. By clicking 'Submit' or otherwise submitting this form you agree to the, By entering this site you declare I think it is a better idea for both of you good luck.do share progress. Ashley Madison helped things along with extramarital affairs. However from what I've read passionate kissing lead to touching, petting,etc. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. See what she has to say. Lets get down to the basics here. But we can get through it together if you are truley remoreseful. And now you - who finds trust difficult - have been tempted to do your OWN test (already commencedwhilst drunk), approached via the psychological end. You do risk upset feelings as a consequence. If it in the meantime hits a nerve and makes you uncomfortable or even gets you all het up, that's your problem, not mine. I like him so so much and I know I was just being drunk and ****. But please seperate the issues. They need to hold people more accountable to commitment. Do you think it's better to alleviate your guilt by hurting someone you loved or better to just deal with it on your own? Thus it's what I *DID DO* - back in September when at an Indian restaurant with friends (I mentioned it on this forum as apropos to someone's thread) and some bloke tried to come onto me. Jam, your wife holds the cards. But I don't see the need to borrow trouble by telling your boyfriend if you have learned your lesson and know you will never do something like that again. Damn, my husband is such a good person and we were together for almost 7 years now. I then suddenyly realised what I was doing and burst into tears, telling him I could not do this to my boyfriend and then called a taxi and left. LOL And Brodie groped James. Personally, I think even innocently returning a kiss is cheating, although Id probably keep it to myself! I put a blanket over her and sat back down next to the man. I believe, on the other hand, that if you got drunk and kissed someone because you were drunk and you had no feelings for the other person, there is no point in confessing about that kiss because a confession could cause trouble over nothing. The marriage itself trying to keep his father and the community happy, and just get my husband to consider the rest of the job force he worked in and the many his wants would affect with UAW seniority for a big three auto plant. but all of a sudden I feel REALLY angry. Old Medication, New Use: Can Prazosin Curb Drinking? My libido is sharper when Im sober, at least if Im really attracted to a guy and have the love goggles on. This was a relationship BTW not a marriage. 507 views, 8 likes, 5 loves, 10 comments, 6 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Scrittori a domicilio: Mattia Insolia, Cieli in fiamme (Mondadori) con. But fine, then 'It's not what you do, it's the way that you do it': give him the truth *cleverly*. Houston? Then I ordered taxis, woke up the other girl and we left. Why would you want to do that? I felt disorientated. Way to make someone who, already understands and feels terrible guilt for what they've done, feel chronically worse. I appreciate you taking the time to reply to me, I can see you feel very passionate about infidelity, however, on this occassion I won't be taking your advice. / Houston, turns out I/you/I+You can't have kids the natural way after all, which is no-one's fault; let's try IVF / adopt / foster / console ourselves with the fact we'll always have each other, and the babies of people we know to borrow, and the freedom and greater financial means to please ourselves. I believe that its a good thing to fess up when kissing someone you care about when you drank too much could threaten your existing relationship. What if they were married? An affair isn't a bad choice made when a married person decides to sleep with someone that they aren't married to. I know I cheated for sure, and thats why I had to confess to my husband that I did it. I'm not telling him because I don't want to mess this up. It sounds like you are projecting your own fears onto him. he set the standard of how he wished this relationship to be conducted in such scenarios yet you failed to follow it WHY did you?). Drop it in CASUALLY, as part of general chit-chat, like it's no big thing (because if it's no biggie to you then that must mean it isn't and wasn't any threat to him), and in such a way as draws similarities with his own past incident. Just, why leave yourself open if you don't have to. Need help with your relationship? Yes, I think if your boyfriend thinks his girl or boy or whatever is gonna be loyal to them even under the influence. So she told him for starters to kiss her well you know where. But now he has begun university and I trust him with everything but I keep thinking of what I did. I kissed another guy when drunk but can't remember?! I am biased and do hold strong views because my XH cheated. I wasn't there but news travelled fast and I knew about it through friends by the next morning. Or run away? I'm asking myself all sorts of questions like did I like him, is that why I did it? Yes it hurts.. You kissed a guy - Possibly unforgivable. Do you? What? Biological ones. I was enjoying myself and loving the chats and laughs. I don't know why I need that so much, but I do. A relationship with a man is supposed to be specifically platonic, says YouTuber David Godinez, while filmmaker James Rath says that men are told not to be physically intimate. Apologize to your SO and tell him that you love him and only him. Thinking of it over and over again will affect you mentally, and make it worse. Yesterday night we went out to drink. "but the fact I work with this person and have to continue to work with him. " I just knew it. It how you deal with it that makes the difference. FoxieLadie is Since he felt there was an attraction with you two. i agree with everyone there's some really good sharing here. If I receive a text from someone that is flirtatious in anyway, I test the person back and tell them that I do not want anymore flirtatious texts and if we are friends then they need to respect my relationship. And if you're not confessing - to the victim - you're dodging doing time. The straight women in the girls-french kiss-girls videowere all shocked at how gentle and non-aggressive female kissers were, in comparison to guys. Make lemonade out of them. It takes to heal the wounded trust again. We've not made it exclusive yet but we did agree to not see other people at the beginning. focus on you and your DH. She said this is how it starts. You're going through tests BY OTHERS to find out why you can't fall pregnant. Scopes: Yes, the kids are the real victims. Foxie: There was something missing in my marriage. If you kissed someone while you were drunk then perhaps you are worried about doing it again. I was drunk but that is no excuse. ;-)) "He's a great kisser" what she said to me. Now, four years later, I am feeling extreme guilt to the point that it is making me sick and consuming thoughts every minute of the day. I remember saying 'no, no, this is bad' in the middle of it, and he said 'I know but I really like you and I have done for ages', and he kissed me again, but this time only for a second because I said ' I really can't do this, I have no excuse, I'm married and he's lovely, it's not like I'm unhappy, he's a good person' then he kinda just stroked my arm and said 'I know, your right, it's just I'm really attracted to you and couldn't not act on it, I'm sorry, you're right'. ;-) I myself have had issues in the past months but I won't elaborate. I'm 44 years old and I've been dating a 24 year old for 5 months. You might feel guilty about it the next day, but it wasnt a big deal. If you think that straight guys are too macho to experiment with same-sex kissing, then yourewrong. Because I already had some unresolved feelings for this guy and I let him kiss me and used the fact that I was drunk as an excuse. I always prefer to know if something is going on than find out about it later, or worse, never find out at all (the idea of this chills me). Would they be as lenient? Years after my divorce the one thing that still makes me really angry is that my XH should have ended the marriage as thats what he wanted. i think OP is using 'kiss' to mean 'more than kiss', but whatever, it was 4 years ago in a rough patch.. everyone here is wrong. It's wonderful that you even wanted to kiss someone! I dont know which country u belong from but where i live I don't think men here like us to talk to strangers , men are our protectors and the bread earners, men on the whole are possessive of their females all around the world specially in case like yours if you have been too much loyal to each other,however if we assumed both of u to be flirt or too outgoing-means in case of slping wid ppl etc then u could share an event like a normal secretbut remember this is not merely a secret its equal to CONFESSING A CRIME/yes disloyality is a crime another man can not touch u after u r marryd to sombdy-if i take myself into account i can never allow any guy to touch me its only my hubbys right to see and love me even he says my loyalty is his most precious asset:) so if u do confess then he forgives or not for ur crime is his decision- I would recommend you should avoid telling him n you should change your job or timings as soon as possible because he that boy may try to exploit the situation tell your hubby though it has little chance but still you should be careful. I'm not going to let that or any insulting aspersions, subtle or otherwise, put me off. I sent the guy packing with a friendly piss-take (whilst deliberately flashing my ring), and then told hubbie the minute I got home. in my opinion I don't see why you would feel guilty you did nothing . Psychology Today 2023 Sussex Publishers, LLC, Psychology and the Mystery of the "Poisoned" Schoolgirls. You're denying him that right and being selfish. If you kissed a stranger, your significant other might just react by laughing or by telling you its okay. In Jung's theory, the anima makes up the totality of the unconscious feminine psychological qualities that a man possesses and the animus the masculine ones possessed by a woman. Not Opening Up To You Anymore To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. Pointer much appreciated, though. Not work you put off until 'tomorrow' - TODAY. I said no but he assured me nothing would happen and we would just lie and cuddle.In a drunken moment I agreed and he assured me nothing would happen. Kissed another man four years ago and NOW feeling guilty. female So this was the whole tone in which I recounted it to hubby, ergo, he thought it was amusing (the event and my comeback), flattering to him *and* reassuring. Dont tell me that you and ______ (the girl who was staying at our house for the weekend) are lesbians? They all agree that kissing is intimate with one even saying that to them, its more intimate than sex. See "The 5 Ingredients of an Effective Apology"; you probably miss at least two of them when you apologize. Carl Jung said that if you're dreaming of a stranger of the opposite sex, it usually means your psyche is tapping into your inner man or inner woman. Try-it-on, cheating sleazebag makes pass at loyally-married woman; reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): A So, you went to a party and everyone was drinking. I made it explicit to my girlfriend that I can only function in an extremely honest and all-cards-on-the-table relationship. Even so, you might find that you are still attracted to other people. :(. Then he kissed me, and I kissed him back.