For men it can be about the loss of strength,unable to be the provider,subconciously driving the partner away from what they perceive to be a dying cause, and unable to stand the pain accummalating day by day, but equally unable to say that to the person as they do not want to lose the one they love, torn emotionally and no idea how to cope. I loved him and I thought things would change. They wont know the tears he cries now were once tears of joy when he held newborn twin daughters in his arms nearly eight years ago. I am feeling so scared today as my husband is due to see the consultant this afternoon to review how things are. Many times after his cancer my husband would look over at me, reach for my hand and say, If it was cancer that made our marriage what it is today, then I am glad for the cancer. I will always be grateful for the bonus years I shared with David those five and a half years after his treatment. Good luck, Carol. He can't be in this house while he's being treated. was offered. I try sohard to be strong for him and ourdaughter, but I look at him and feel so angry that he's going though all of this pain and anguish. we're still waiting for my son. Does it bother you? For more about Lisa Marie, visit her on Instagram. more than 3 years ago. Hi there JosephMy husband was diagnosed April 2018. I have now suggested that I am on the call with him next time or whether I can ask the consultant questions that I know he wants to avoid. Your social media following is growing, and you have plenty of gigs coming up. If he starts and you don't want to argue just walk into another room, get in the car and go somewhere else. But what transpired in our marriage relationship during those months still amazes me. I will never forget his response to my question the day before his 60th birthday. "A lot of people are thinking it but they won't say it. Being a Nurse , I was more than prepared and willing to care for him but there was too much 'crazy making' going on, so I had to leave. My humor doesnt particularly come from where I live. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. I chatted with Lisa Marie to preview her April 2 hop across the Arthur Kill to perform at the URSB Carteret Performing Arts & Events Center. If I don't challenge his abuse then I am an enabler. Whether its about doing her familys laundry or the pedicure prices in her hometown, shes amassed millions of views for telling it like it is, all while sporting her now iconic white hair clip. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER. Are you receiving any counselling ? I hope all is well with you and your husband, susan hesselgesser We have school families who pray for us because there are days we have nothing to say to God. I've lived in Staten Island for over 10 years. For now, however, being known as One Funny Lisa Marie is enough fun. We are heartbroken., A post shared by Lisa Marie Riley (@onefunnylisamarie). . I hope you don't mind me joining this conversation - I have been reading your stories and I hope you are both coping ok. Because of Covid I had no help until little over one month before he passed away. I loved him very much. But through it all and in the midst of a pandemic Riley has kept her sense of humor, and helped other people laugh too. My husband of 37 years was diagnosed w/ grade III brain tumor in 2012. I am in a similar position although in my case there is a lot of questions yet to be answered as we are only at the very beginning of our journey but things are pretty scary for us too. I am feeling less alone. I just take one day at a time, as like you said it is so consuming. more than 2 years ago. We are both trying to be up beat and positive but some days it is just so hard. Cooking is a bond that me and my mother have, so that would be special. My spouses diagnosis made me realize just how much I loved him. Her name is Lisa Marie Riley, better known as One Funny Lisa Marie, and celebrities like Hugh Jackman and Meghan Trainor are among her fans. I recently heard that his son wants the home we shared and tat my husband has made a new will. But I feel for all of you going through the same. a shock of course. We went to other Dr.'s for a 2nd & 3rd opinion. My goal for my life is for me and my loved ones to be healthy, happy, and for us to raise three amazing children. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER, In this excerpt from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, our monthly VIP, Xavier Dean, shares some very specific branding and marketing knowledge that he used to go from homeless to owning a 7-figure real estate company, a branding company, and boasting an Instagram platform with 1.3M followers. My throat almost closed up & left me with an airway passage of 5-10%. And then there was someone who laughed so hard she peed her pants but still didnt want to leave. I put up with it because I loved him and realising it was the cancer I made a determined decision to stay right by him. Davids treatment was grueling. People who you can talk to. I'm just wondering if cancer has done this to other men, or if he's just decided to show his true colours? I walked in this same bar the other day to pick up sushi takeout, but I left instead with a memory of fun times so thick and heavy I could literally taste the sugar off the rim of those blue martinis I drank that night. "There's a lot of great people and great opportunity.". She is known and loved on social media as @onefunnymommy and became an almost overnight sensation. When we were at A&E last week they said that his blood count was so low they were considering transfusion but he insisted on going home and they said hopefully the iron tablets would help. It was an energetic night. When Lisa Marie Riley found out her husband had an aggressive 8lb tumor in his stomach after complaining of a stomach ache, her sister and friends set up an Instagram account for her and told her that, instead of texting them on their group chat (which she hated), she could just post videos to Insta I can more than relate, Beth. I hope that your husband has completed his radiotherapy ok and good luck with your meeting with the consultant tomorrow. Anyone who has received a cancer diagnosis holds an indelible memory of the moment the words "You have cancer" were uttered. Her second book, All Things Aside, will be released in the fall. Really sorry to hear that - I'm at the other end of that journey - my wife died after 3 years of cancer back in October. Life can change in an instant. I knowmy partner has a psychiatrist that helps him to deal with his emotions. I just take each day at a timeand gratefully accept every offer of help given. Communication is key to a good relationship. I would be happy to receive news and updates from Cancer Chat, NICE suspected cancer referral guidelines, Cancer Research UK for Children & Young People, Coping with my husband who has terminal cancer. I cant tell you how many promises to our kids Disneyworld, a camping trip out West, boat trips, and future father-daughter dances to name a few now all hang somewhere in a sad cloud of uncertainty. He struggled to communicate by writing with a shaky hand on a dry erase board. Thinking of you and hoping you are coping at this difficult time. She posts videos about the ridiculousness of day-to-day life as a mom and caregiver. Hi Paddock. He's angry with me, and I totally understand it, but I can't just sit here with him in his normal work routine pretending like he doesn't have cancer. I haven't had any counselling but it's something I think Ineed to look into. He had a procedure two days ago (day surgery) and i genuinely feel that it would have been better for everybody if he hadnt survived the anaesthetic. We've had a rough week, my husband started his 5 days ofradiotherapy on Wednesday. "It's such a great, great feeling that there's still such a nice community," she said. I had made a vow to myself that if he ever laid a hand on me I'd leave. But in this time of despair, we have found there are countless people who hope for us because our hope is almost gone. Court stenographer turned comedian Lisa Marie Riley @onefunnymommy is her real name. Next came an MRI to determine the extent of the damage. You'll find a lot of caring people on line here that you can chat to in the dark times - you'd be surprised how many posts are in the middle of the night - well maybe you'd not be that surprised eh? He's just come home from hospital after 10 days afterdeveloping blood clots on his lungs and an infection. And many times, to our pleasant surprise, that ends up being way more than enough.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. more than 3 years ago. The neurosurgeons finally determined the tumor to be malignant & we have been told there is a 5% chance for survival of 5 years beyond the operations. How does your Italian heritage influence your humor and your cooking? I saw two old people walking together the other day, and I got so mad. I laugh, Ill probably be late to my own funeral., He reassured me, Dont worry, Ill get you there on time.. With the removal of his tracheotomy tube, my husbands voice was gravely and sometimes difficult to understand. A Warner Bros. He seemed to age 10 years in 10 months. It brought it all back. Letting them know they hurt you and I used to tell him when he was out of line, that or just get up and leave the room. He desparately wants to be at home all the time and I want him here. And now I'm crying because I'm going to lose him. He won't go out either so just stays at home all day sitting down and going to bed at 8.30 but can't sleep at night. My partner has cancer and I can relate to you. David died knowing he was truly loved, and I was left with the memory of what it was to share a true partnership with a spouse. look after him yes, but mutual respect shouldnot leave home when cancer arrives. The only thing left I can give you is probably just my middle finger. I have 2 children, 1 at home, 1 at university. Hi Dawn well my husband started his chemo course yesterday ! See acast.com/privacy for more information. Cancer and its treatment often affect sexual health. I could barely eat anything & breathing was quite difficult. They dont know the person we knew before Cancer came calling. Access your favorite topics in a personalized feed while you're on the go. I really hope this doesn;t sound selfish, and the main reason I am posting this is to see if anyone else has had the same experience and if so how they coped, and in fact if they coped, becuase I'm struggling and ready to give up. Its not hard to see we are people who dont talk very much to each other, or we do so with tears in our eyes. I have scheduled an appointment with the Trust Attorney to see what my options are. Thank you for your kind reply, keep in touch Paddock, Hi Paddock, I'm so glad to hear from you and that your okay. It wasn't him. doctor for support, Also consider wether he needs to speak to his doctor about how he is feeling if he is feeling low/depressed. All I will say is the same I've said to my husband. Is he so ill, that he needs taken care of or has he reverted back to a childhood state, you are his wife not his mother. Riley's Instagram page, One Funny Lisa Marie (formerly One Funny Mommy), has amassed nearly 200,000 followers since it started in 2019. Her Instagram has nearly 200,000 followers. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations. Everyday I dread getting up and having to facea new day dealing with cancer, I am so very frightened and scared. cancer is not only a disease of the body,its very much one of the mind as well,you only have to read some of the posts on this site to make you realise how much fear and desperation it can inflict upon sufferers.They can no longer be the person they would choose,but become driven by invading demons in a frenzy of absolute hopeless helplessness. Credit Solution Experts Incorporated offers quality business credit building services, which includes an easy step-by-step system designed for helping clients build their business credit effortlessly. So thankfully I do not feel quite so alone. It's heartbreaking watching him being so scared but you are allowed to have a voice, as you are also going through this too emotionally. One subsequent TikTok video went viral (5M views) and now she's helping a combined 500K followers across both platforms laugh their way through the "current s%#t show" of COVID as she fights to do anything besides cave into cancer in front of her husband and three kids. The 39-year-old is currently on her Back in Action comedy tour and preparing her sixth Netflix special. Did you encounter any technical issues? He used to have a sense of humor a sarcastic, dry one but funny as hell. Before long, strangers started following along. "They don't find me cool or anything like that," she said. Lisa Marie Riley @onefunnymommy is a court stenographer turned comedian. Now we are sad people, angry people, depressed most days. We are having genetic testing done, for the children. When Lisa Marie Riley found out her husband had an aggressive 8lb tumor in his stomach after complaining of a stomach ache, her sister and friends set up an Instagram account for her and told her that, instead of texting them on their group chat (which she hated), she could just post videos to Instagram for them to see. One subsequent TikTok video went viral (5M views) and now she's helping a combined 500K followers across both platforms laugh their way through the "current s%#t show" of COVID as she fights to do anything besides cave into cancer in front of her husband and three kids. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. Everyday I am doing more and more for him (not that I mind ) and I know he is struggling with this aswell. We were normal. But I'm realising now that i'm left with mental scars. Since his discharge from hospital on Friday ,I have really noticed him going downhill. Nancy Hopper While my husband David did not die from his cancer, his diagnosis did introduce the stark reality of what could happen. Isn't it amazing how quickly our lives have been turned upside down and how you just accept each n ew phase ? He's had two courses of chemotherapy which haven't worked. There was drinking and dancing and way too much fun for 30-somethings to be having. Each day becomes more frightening because you lose a little bit more of them and yourself. We spent many evening in A &E. before the chemotherapy was stopped. Staten Island-based, Brooklyn-bred Lisa Marie is one funny wife and mom. Thinking about it he has become an abuser. If so, what do you think of it? In astrological terms, Cancer is the ruling sign of the 4th house of family and home. I am tired of telling them night after night that Daddy doesnt want to be sick, or Daddy wishes he could play with you. With terrible heartbreak, I listened to one of our twins tell the other she wishes she had her old daddy back. Although he is eating really well, and we seem to have the pain management under control, he isgetting weaker. Ive told him how Im really looking forward to having him grimace at me putting a bikini on 70-year-old saggy boobs. There, I said it. But underneath all of the mechanics is a simple philosophy he believes, exemplified through this quote, "Well, before we just help you create a brand, you need to tell us, how does the world perceive you? It is not the critic who counts. We were best buds for years. Some how ( and I really don't know how ) we have to try andbestrong and comforting forthem. It gave me 60 seconds to just take my mind off my terrible reality and give us some time to laugh.